First things first, to anyone saying they are not doing a New Year’s Res. because they believe it will never get done, good for you. However shaming other’s for using this time for a clean start because they set realistic goals for themselves to attain and you couldn’t is not the way to play it. To anyone who is participating, don’t listen to the naysayers, as a matter of fact, don’t even mention your New Year’s Resolutions.
Personally, and even aside from NYR, I have found that when I share my goals with other’s, most people have reacted in a way that had discouraged me from pursuing my goal or reverting back to old habits. Now I’m not saying everyone should keep it to themselves. Some people can share their goals and dreams with others and use that as motivation not to slack off out of fear that they are either disappointing those folks they shared it with, just not keeping their word, or have others motivate them in the process. The constant positive reinforcement goes a long way for some. For me, as I have had time to reflect, I feel I can check myself enough to keep myself motivated. I have found that I am able to stick to things if I show people what I have accomplished already, rather than tell them what I plan to do. I’m better off motivating myself, because looking to others for motivation leaves me disappointed every single time.
With that being said, I will not have a NYR post. As much as I want to, I am a firm believer in bad juju. The only people who need to be involved in the plan is myself and God. I will however, post my NYR either after I have accomplished it, or when I’m already well into it. I will however, share anything that could be beneficial to others like a few challenges I will be participating in. But anything like weight loss goals— well okay, I won’t constantly post, but will periodically update my progress.
I will say this, I will not waste anymore time watching others live out their dreams. A few months back I found this quote that said:
“If you don’t build your dream, someone will hire you to help build theirs.”
The point of this post is to say that this year I will no longer worry about the actions of others and whether or not they are paying attention to mine. I have been throwing away my dreams to fit the mold of other peoples expectations. I vow to protect my dreams, goals, and aspirations, even if that means keeping them to myself and walking alone. Side note: I have thought about that quote every day since we crossed paths.
Here’s to the New Year, and an ever-evolving me.