One reason why I love Jay Colby is that he always has topics that not only welcome discussion but also respectively reflect is views as well as remind me to put myself on the other side of the fence which brings it all together. Yesterday, I came across was a post that asked, “Should money mattered when dating?”. Now he has his audience (myself included) to spark a conversation with, I thought I’d do the same and extend the conversation to mine. Because for this question, a comment wouldn’t have done it justice:
I was a little heated as I was reading the results of the gender statistics he conducted (laughs) which also reminds me to tune into his podcasts. But money does matter to an extent. Would I base that off of whether I date a man or not? No. The way I see it is this:
The amount of money does not matter (whether it is more, less, or matching mine or not). As long as we can live the way we want to, that is, able to cover our half of the expenses (rent, bills, etc.) and able to do what we want in our leisure, why should that matter? I actually expect a few times of hardship from both ends: I mean, its life, whether we have money in the bank or not. As long as we are both to a point where we are prepared, money shouldn’t be the end all be all factor. I do however, require you have an honest job bringing in steady income going into it. Let me explain:
I’ve dealt with someone unemployed in the beginning, the problem was it stayed that way (a span of four years to be exact). I was young naive and had never been in a relationship before. I helped in any way that I could as a significant other, even assisting in helping to find work. But when it got to a point where I was filling out his applications and feeding him, I knew I had to let go. And who wants a someone who can’t do those things on his own. I felt like a parent even before I was one.
A lot of that had to do with thinking that was what it took to be in a relationship; doing whatever possible to help the other person. But no, if the other person can’t learn to help themselves, don’t waste your time. I was trying to play God and it took me four years to realize that, I needed to remove myself; because I was indeed blocking the blessings.
Enough of my rambling: to some this up the amount of money does not dictate whether I date or not, but have some type of financial income does. What do you think?
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