Quote of the Week 

I’m gonna add another goal to the second half of this year as I have been lying to myself and trying to fake it until I make it. Learning to love myself for who I am (I have flaws as well as my highlights). We all naturally insinuate our strengths, but sweep our weaknesses under the rug if we can’t address them.
I have big dreams. I maybe leading off as if what I am about to say sounds like it intangible but the reality is this: most don’t make it, though few do. The difference between the some from the few? While both have a come-to-Jesus moment in their journey, was what they did about it in the end. Most allow their circumstances dictate their next move, their reaction, their outcome. Few in that moment, change their way of thinking to mold that circumstance to work for them getting them a step closer to where they want to be.

I feel for that to happen, I have to be completely honest with myself. Which I’ve never been.  So I need to add one more goal to my Mid-Year Goals. I officially claim this Self-Love journey I’ve unknowingly been on. Step one: Recognizing & Accepting the things about myself I can’t change. For the things I can change, plan & execute.

No one can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself.

-James Russell Lovell
Until Next Time,

t.

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3 Study Tips to ensure a Successful Semester

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I went through a lot last week. After almost losing my job and injuring myself (wasn’t doing anything strenuous, just bending down for the wipes to change baby’s diaper), I needed some time to hurt and to process what was going on. Now that has came and gone, and on top of that, being into my first week of classes , I realized I literally have nothing to lose..

This dance, I’ve been doing has got to end.

I have re-enrolled in a class that I have failed last semester from being burnt out and tending to the baby even though I had extra help to tend to my studies— I’m a mom, what can I say?) Looking back on it, the class is actually easy, just a lot of work. But I guess I understand, it’s online. They have to make it challenging some how, right? I enrolled with the same instructor, and noticed that she has put all of the assignments for the semester online, open to submission. 

Tip #1: ASK YOUR INSTRUCTOR FOR ALL OF YOUR ASSIGNMENTS AT THE BEGINNING OF THE SEMESTER! 

Some instructors will have no problem posting the work in advance, some may have their own lives to juggle and just won’t have time. They therefore utilize the followed schedule to post assignments as each week approaches. It doesn’t hurt to ask! The worst they can say is no, but if you’re like me you may want to get some or all of the work completed and just be done with it. You do your best to create a schedule, but lets be real, with a little one crawling around, there is no guarantee, babysitters cancel, there could be a schedule change at work, and the like. Which brings us to 

Tip #2: BUY A PLANNER, PRE-ENTER ALL OF YOUR ASSIGNMENTS FOR THE SEMESTER!

This is a holy grail task for me! I have always been forward-thinking and I’ve always pushed to be ahead of the game. This tactic never fails me. If you really want to beat time, I set my assignments to be due a day or two from the actual due date. That way if I look back and panic (BECAUSE I AM A PROCRASTINATOR), I’ll rush to get it done only to see at the assignment drop off page it wasn’t due for another day or two. That way my work is on time! I love that most of my classes give me the first week to study the syllabi and get acquainted with Bb. I use this time to get a head start on my assignments for the semester.

Tip#3: PRIORITIZE YOUR ASSIGNMENTS

I have found that when I focus my time on the heavily weighted assignments, I find my grade doesn’t suffer too much..

This sounds a little unsure. Let me explain: 

See if you read your syllabus, (flash tip: KNOW YOUR SYLLABI!) the instructor usually itemizes each type of assignment you’ll get in the class and next to it is a weighted percentage of its overall worth. It’ll look like this:

Tests 40%

Quizzes 25%

Chapter Summary 25%

Virtual Field Trips 10%

This is a perfect example of prioritizing your assignments from most to least importance. Moms, we have children, we have jobs, and things happen. Let’s say worst case scenario, we haven’t worked on anything all week. It’s the weekend and we look up and realize we have assignments do!we begin to panic begin to rationalize our assignments.. 

So which one of these assignments am I not doing?

Field trips are only 10% of the over all percentage so if we missed one field trip while focusing all of the remaining time we have on the assignments that will keep our grade afloat (tests are a few times given so let’s say quizzes which are on average with every chapter and summaries which are reoccurring) quizzes and summaries are 50% of our overall grade alone! Focusing on that, next week is a new week, brush it off and keep going.

I’ll leave with this:

Understand as moms, everything is trial and error, sometimes we get discouraged but it’s the superwoman in us that continue to keep on keepin on! I hope these tips helped and if you liked them, let me know! If you think of any other tips that helped you, I can use as much help as the next mommy! 

Have a Productive Semester!

Until Next Time,

T

The Blue Pill or the Red?

I need help and guidance here! I’ve been working for my current job for two months, I love it. 

Here’s an overview:

City job. Rate of pay is 14.01 an hour, but I only get 25 hours a week. It pays the bills, but I’m not able to save money like I need to. As much as they love to promote from within the company, I have to be there for at least 6 months before I can even apply for a better position. This is a permanent position. I don’t get benefits (part-time employee), except for the discounts they give me (free services they offer, discounts off rent, and amusement park tickets). the hours are mid-day, 12:30-5:30 which is okay. They’re saying I may have to come in earlier shifts. Like 5-6am, etc. it’s a lot of information to learn which I don’t mind. They have resources out the butt to guide me. There’s a solution for everything. I am also gaining the office & computer experience I’ve been seeking for a while now. But I have a daughter and I can’t just get by. I’m a single mother and will soon be working on one income. On top of that, because I’m in a different tax bracket, taxes are a killer!
Now this other job, if I am offered, 

Is a 12 month contract and pays 14.44 an hour. It’s working with shipments & customers (something else I’ve been interested in) in another city, and offers a mid-day shift but more hours (35 hours weekly, 1-8p).  Double the paycheck of what I’m getting now. Which I could definitely use. I wouldn’t have to worry about a second job, but I would have to deduct my own taxes. I just finished working a contracted position and I owe, but this job would allow me to pay it off. I believe this job maybe a city job (the business I would contract for). So I could receive some benefits/discounts. But after its up, I would be in search of another job if one is not offered to me. I was out of work for two months after my last contracted job. But I do know what I didn’t know then. And have no reasons not to save. I think I’m going to go for if I am offered, but I hate that I’ve invested do much (well I guess two months is not much and I’m not trying to make a career out of either so..?) I think I have my answer but value a second opinion. 

Help me sort this out guys! I need outside perspective! Let me know your thoughts in the comments. I need to converse (laughs)! 

Until Next Time,

T. 

Selfish Summer 16′ (What Type Am I? Book Review)

This summer is about me.
And when I coin the phrase, selfish summer, I don’t mean everyone else is out of luck on my priority list but I must be on the top…

You see I’ve decided instead of taking summer classes (as much as I wanted to) I’d focus my attention on my hobbies and areas of interest. Hell, I deserve to think an academic break. So I’ve decided to tackle a few goals that I’ve had for quite a while.

One of those goals is to read more during my leisure (it’s been a while since I’ve taken time out to do that). I stopped at Barnes and Noble one afternoon after work and came across a great read.

I’m a psych major and found a little peace to find a book that I enjoyed and happened to be in my field of study. Furthermore, I’m all about self improvement and found this to be a great start!

How I grew attached to this book: I am currently finishing up a contracted position that I’ve worked for 5 months. While I’ve enjoyed myself and the people I’ve met along the way, I happened to learn a great deal about myself and specifically my preferences [in the workplace]. Most importantly I’ve discovered that as much as I love customer service, if I can’t help people in the way that I would like to, then I can’t do it. With that being said, I am interested in the intellectual psyche of a persons’ mind. Helping them to understand themselves and what direction they should go after helping them to identify just that. Not listening to their complaining about how their equipment doesn’t work (my current duty as a contractor) and I could go on and on about what if like to do but I’d rather discuss my dislikes (which include, but not limited to):

  1. Up close and personal space invasion
  2. Direct confrontation/discussion unless it is brief
  3. Being interrupted while I am concentrating on a given task
  4. An unstable work environment 
  5. Relying on others to carry out a task i.e. lazy coworkers

Just to name a few.

With that, this read sparked my interest because I have personally struggled in making conscious decisions for myself. I feel that behind that obstacle was because I don’t understand myself: why I do things a certain way and why I have to implement them in that way specifically. Why I address people in a certain manner and act a certain way around others or big crowds. Based off of my biological psyche, what environments I would thrive in the workplace, etc. 

This book goes into understanding yourself and others by the Myer-Briggs personality test (may have taken in high school). So from there I answered some questions about preference and temperament which led me to discover— of confirm— my introverted personality. 

I am an introvert: to sum things up, to be an introvert means to be internally motivated. I prefer not to be around many people and find inspiration in the crevices of my mind.  While I can work with others no problem sometimes it can be a struggle to ask others to do things for me, I would do things myself before bothering someone else with a task (if I am able to). My struggle is using this to my advantage. While being an introvert may seem bad, I don’t feel it is, and the author does encourage you to think that way. While I may come off as quiet I do have great skills: I prefer to write things down and am very particular as I try to be as accurate as possible.

ISFJ: I digress, the image above I took of my personal ID. It is a make up of my preferences and temperament. It stands for Introverting Sensing Feeling Judging. 


I have some work to do this summer!