Quote of the Week|Perseverance

Happy Wednesday,

As we arrive to this week’s peak, I leave you to ponder this quote about perseverance:

You are one NO, closer to your yes..

This maybe one of the hardest things I’ve had to come to terms with. Though everyday it gets easier. Have a good hump day, and God bless the rest of your week!

Blogtober| Day Six: 3 Ways I Stay Encouraged

Let’s face it, we’ve all gotten to a low point. As much as I am in high spirits, believe me when I say it’s been an internal struggle. With everything I have going on… oh if you knew my life, you’d be wondering why I haven’t tapped out.

Well, Here are my top three strategies I use to motivate myself:

  1. Seek God: Whenever I am stressed and exhausted, I am looking for someone to vent to. However, this past year God has been trying to tell me to vent to him, not others. Because honestly, what can they do? Sometimes we can be discouraged by talking to other people. I don’t know about you, but God has always supplied me with all of my needs, whether I deserved it or not. If it’s not broke… I promised my dad I would pray every morning. The days that I did pray, I noticed I have been more at peace with my circumstances. The days I forgot, well… I made it through.
  2. Plan: Faith without works is dead (James 2:26). You will always see me with a pen and a college ruled notebook. Mainly because I love to write things down (I use my phone as a reminder and alarm), but my dreams, aspirations, and priorities are personal. I have to touch and feel what I’m doing in order for me to learn and recall information (I am a kinesthetic learner). And planning for me, is fun. 
  3. Put Yourself in Place: Just imagining myself where I aspire to be is the motivation, but I can’t just sit and hope things workout. I’m constantly revamping my skills, reading motivational and informational books, watching tutorials, and I constantly give myself a pep talk (this is actually daily), I even try to submerse myself around those already ahead of me. It’s not envy, it’s motivation. 

These again, are are my motivators I use to keep myself encouraged (it really doesn’t take much to get me moving). I speak to those who are at a stand still and are reluctant to move. Those who question why even keep trying. At this point I’m at the stage where I have nothing to lose. 

Tamia’s Birthday Letter

A year old? Already?!

Where has the time gone? Tamia, my Mia.

Standing, walking, and talking!

Soon, I’ll look up to your stretched out hands asking for the keys *sniffs*

It has been amazing… watching you grow this past year, and I am looking forward to every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every week, every month, every year, every waking [and sleeping that I can get] moment, both happy and sad, to come.

I want you to always know that I as your mother will always do my best to teach you right from wrong, guiding you in the right direction and steering you away from the wrong, to the best of my judgement.

Always know, that with God, all things are possible, as He is your strength, your rock. We will continue to pray, and as I grow stronger in my faith the man above, so will you, until you feel either able to establish a relationship on your own with him, or if [God forbid] you feel there can’t be one.

It is my job to teach and guide you. It is yours to continue to stay on that path.

There is still a lot you have to learn about this world [as do I] but, know that I will always be here to help you.

I pray that I continue to show you just as much love and support as I have always wanted.

I apologize for not figuring out what your cries meant. For the most part I got them down, although there were some I just couldn’t decipher. There may come a time where you look to me for answers and I just can’t give them to you. I leave you with this at the end of your first year: Be patient, be kind, and steadfast. Pray, meditate, and he will lead you.

Always remember that, Mama loves you. Always.

Happy First Birthday (Sept. 18, 2016)

It’s June: Writer’s Block

I’ve been trying to scratch that itch to blog. And it hasn’t been going too well. I think about it everyday. It’s been like two propelled magnets: I am one, the computer the other. 

You see, I’ve been wanting to launch my blog and expect for readers to automatically gravitate. I know I have a lot to say that’s worth reading. So here’s what’s been holding me back: 

  1. How to convey my thoughts and ideas: I want to lifestyle blog, but I read and hear everywhere that it’s too broad and I will have trouble with grabbing the attention of readers. But I’ve been struggling with narrowing it down to just one. Understand, every decision I make in life, big or small, is a life decision. Sometimes I honestly believe that’s the hardest kind of person you can be in life. Everything is stressful and after finally making a decision, you still continue to wonder, “What if I chose differently?” Then, you ponder on the things you missed out on and yadda-yadda. But, I digress. This is what’s been keeping me from moving forward blogging.
  2. The process of launching a successful blog: I’m still trying to figure out the ins and outs of blogging. Do I need to come out of pocket for my blog to be successful financially? Buying my own domain and paying for more appealing layout? I’ve just discovered email subscriptions. So much to learn! Where to begin!? It’s all me scared away. 
  3. Priorities: being a full-time mom, and trying to land another gig (just finished a contracted job, now it’s interview after interview) knowing rent is due again next month.. Blogging is still on my mind! You thought I’d say it’s the last thing I’m worried about? No,no. It’s still an area of interest. I would love to create a passive income. 

So there was this webinar that I’ve reviewed about a week prior that gave me some ideas on how to get started. And then it dawned on me that I have commitment issues. 

I’ve never carried out a project to its entirety unless there was a grade or consequence to it being incomplete. You know, I think this is the first time that I’ve admitted that out loud. Why do I start something and never finish it when my life is centered around setting goals? I love goals, they’re my motivators to living life! 

Anywho, one of the suggestions was to spy on my potential audience: i.e. read comments on posts pertaining to my interests and see what readers thought the writer lacked and solve those problems. While I thought, genius move, what if I don’t want to do that? I agreed with the first suggestion, to see what readers are saying to writers, but had a hard time wrapping my head around part 2. I decided to take the host of the webinars advice, I just began to explore WordPress a little more. In doing that I looked into more of what my areas of interest were, and in doing that I found a topic that brings my entire lifestyle blog into one category: self-help. 

In reading more posts about this topic, I stumbled across an exercise to do when my mental is feeling clouded: prompts..

    : the act of transforming (to undergo a change in form, appearance, or character; become transformed)

    This is the stage in which I am in my life. I just completed a contracted position and have not landed anything else. So this is the perfect time to start my ventures. It’s like I’m in metamorphosis. I’m brewing, I’m nesting, and soon I will hatch, scream! Ready to take on the world.